I posted last October about how we had been to see the local college and that we felt it was the right place for him. Well, after a shaky start with emails disappearing into the ether, his name falling out the net and not hearing anything for months, me going to the college and asking what was going on, the “net” went back and got him, emails were sent again and he finally got his place. It is a Life Skills course that runs for three years, three days a week. So far so marvellous.
We wanted somewhere to go for the other two days or he’ll just sit in his room and watch Youtube. We went to another open day to a place a bit further out which he seemed to like. He went with his class and still liked it. We arranged an assessment which seemed to go well and we waited. And waited. And waited. I chased and chased. They needed reports. I’d given them reports on the day of the assessment. We waited some more. I chased some more.
Eventually we got a short to the point email saying no. I sent a shorter and more to the point email back. We had wasted six weeks when we could have been looking for alternative places. In the end we decided that we would still have College and we could look for somewhere else later in the year.
In between all this I found out he no longer had a social worker. No one had told me. This was February and it has taken till now to be allocated another one.
On the last day of school his class hosted an afternoon tea for the parents, it was lovely. I got talking to one of the Dads and he told me about a day center (for want of a better word) right opposite the school where one of the other lads went. In fact I found a couple locally and emailed both.
The one by the school replied, we exchanged emails, we went to visit and he had an assessment. They told me how much it would be. The trouble was his college days clashed with their more activity based days. I contacted the college to see if it was possible to move his days, explaining that a social setting would complement his education. we didn’t hold out much hope if I’m honest but they’ve agreed! The social worker is coming to see me to discuss funding. Fingers crossed.
This is a very abridged version of events, frustration, worry, and annoyance at a system that seems to make it it’s business to unnecessarily complicate things. We had next to no help from school, everything we did, we did on our own or recommendation from other parents. As the head of sixth form said finding placements for Learning Disabled Adults is a lot more difficult than Learning Disabled Children.
In fairness I think it has worked out for the best, his college, Madam’s school and the day center are all on the same bit of road. Very handy for dropping off and picking up. Sir will be at college and the center on the same days as his friend which helps tremendously.
So, what did I learn? You need to chase people. They do not come to you. Never take anything as given until you have it writing/email. Do your own research. Sign up to your local council newsletters if they have one, and definitely follow their socials because that’s where they put most of the information about open days etc. Start early. If your child is in Y10 or Y11 now is the time to begin looking and keep looking because places that exist now might have shut in two years time. If phoning or emailing doesn’t work, go see them in person. They are there to help you. Good Luck!